Choosing the right celebrant for your wedding, funeral, or other special occasion is one of the most important decisions you’ll make when planning your ceremony. The celebrant’s role is to craft and deliver a bespoke ceremony that truly reflects your values, beliefs, and personality. But how do you ensure the celebrant you choose is the right fit for you?

It’s not just about checking availability; it’s about forming a partnership. You’ll want to work with someone who understands your vision and can guide you through the process with empathy and creativity. To help you in this journey, here’s a guide to getting to know your celebrant and ensuring they’re the perfect match for your ceremony.

Why the right celebrant matters

A celebrant doesn’t just deliver words; they weave together a narrative that captures the essence of the people and purpose behind the ceremony. Whether it’s the celebration of love in a wedding, the heartfelt tribute of a funeral, or a joyous naming day, the celebrant’s ability to align with your values and preferences can make all the difference.

Here are some tips and a comprehensive list of questions you can ask to help you make the best choice.

21 questions to ask when choosing a celebrant

Availability and practicalities

1. Are you available on the date and time of our ceremony?

2. Are you willing to travel to our venue? If so, are there additional costs for travel?

3. How long do you typically spend preparing for a ceremony?

Experience and style

4. How long have you been a celebrant, and what inspired you to become one?

5. What types of ceremonies do you specialise in?

6.     What is your process for creating the ceremony?

7. Can you provide examples of ceremonies you’ve performed that align with what we’re looking for?

Personal connection and values

8. What is your approach to understanding the people you work with?

9. How do you ensure that the ceremony reflects our values and beliefs?

10. Are you comfortable incorporating cultural, spiritual, or religious elements?

Collaboration and customisation

11. What is your process for creating a bespoke ceremony?

12. How do you involve us in the development of the ceremony?

13. Are there any elements you recommend or advise against based on your experience?

Communication and flexibility

14. How often will we meet or communicate during the planning process?

15. Are you open to last-minute changes or adjustments?

16. Do you offer a rehearsal, and is this included in your fee?

Practical support and guidance

17. Will you liaise with the venue or other suppliers on our behalf?

18. Can you help us write personal vows, tributes, or other ceremony components?

19.  Do you provide a script or keepsake copy of the ceremony?

20. What do you do in case of an emergency or unforeseen circumstances on the day?

21. Are you a member of any professional celebrant organisations?

How to assess compatibility

The answers to these questions will give you a sense of the celebrant’s professionalism and style, but it’s equally important to trust your instincts. A great celebrant will put you at ease, listen to your ideas, and offer suggestions that resonate with your vision. If their personality feels like a good match, that’s a strong indicator you’ll work well together.

Your ceremony, your story

Finding the right celebrant is about more than ticking boxes; it’s about forming a connection with someone who will bring your ceremony to life. By asking the right questions and taking the time to get to know your celebrant, you can ensure that your ceremony is as unique and meaningful as the occasion it celebrates.

If you’re looking for a celebrant who values collaboration, creativity, and authenticity, I’d love to hear from you. Together, we can create a ceremony that truly reflects your story.